What do you long for in your life?
Better relationships? More compassion? A longer vacation? Better job? Freedom? A healthier body? All of the above?
What if I told you the only way you will actually realize and live a life you desire or long for, is if you accept and appreciate the one you have now?
Acceptance is not the same as complacency. When we are complacent, we are ignoring the truth that life for you is not fulfilling and convincing yourself that it is. Acceptance is understanding that life isn’t full of all the qualities and things or people you would like all the time (and much of life may actually be challenging), but recognizing the notion that loving what you do have regardless of how bad it may seem, will create more of what you love.
Your own body is a great place to start. You can’t escape your body while you are here on Earth, and while you're here, your body is not afraid to tell you when you are are happy or sad, weak or strong, stressed or at peace.
Become grateful for your physical body, the vessel that allows you to experience life itself.
By ignoring the simple fact that life is neither awesome nor horrible without your body to experience it...creates a disassociation to your innate ability in creating a fulfilling life. In other words, if you can’t acknowledge and accept what is, it’s difficult to think what you want is possible. Where you are now is the result of what you have believed for yourself.
Until you improve your relationship and attitude with yourself and body, you will continue to co-create a life that satisfies the comforts of remaining where and who you are.
Learn to love what is, knowing the relationship you have with your body is a mirror to the relationship you have with life itself and the people in it.
Is there something in your life that you have been thinking about doing but that’s where it stops... in the thinking about it?
Buying a new car? Going on vacation? Starting a business? Getting up to see the sunrise?
You think about it, your whole body starts to tingle with joy, and everything in life feels good.
Then, when you think about the steps you need to take in order for that thing you have been dreaming about to happen, suddenly obstacles show up in front of your feet. You see the first obstacle as either “not enough time” or “not enough money”. So you go on dreaming, but never take action on finding a solution to the obstacle that is between you and making your dream a reality.
Let’s first define what the word ‘obstacle’ means before you give up completely on all of your dreams.
Obstacle (noun); a thing that blocks one's way or prevents or hinders progress.
So if an obstacle is a ‘thing’ that blocks you from progressing forward...and your ‘thoughts become things’ in the theory of manifestation. This means that YOU are creating the thing that stops you from moving forward. Most obstacles are an illusion of the mind.
Recall the idea that, what you think about, you bring about.
You are the creator of your reality. Every situation, person, sunset and item of clothing that you experience, has been created out of what thoughts you chose to entertain.
For instance, if you have a love for ice cream and you want to indulge in having the experience of eating ice cream, you will find a way and make the choices necessary to have the ice cream.
How desperately you want it, will determine the extent you will go to get it.
The same thing goes for any other dream or desire you have been wanting in your life.
How desperately do you want it?
Are you desperate or determined enough to look beyond any fear, doubt and insecurity that you may have as you take the first step toward that desire?
There is no doubt that fear will arrive when you are about to embark on the path towards realizing your dream life. You have practiced living a safe and repetitive lifestyle for some time now. To disturb how you have done things up until now, will cause you to shake on the inside.
Your foundations are being tested, your sense of self is being questioned. This is why you must be crystal clear about where you are going in order to know the first step towards it.
Controlling how everything is going to happen is an obstacle in itself. It will keep you from even taking that first step if you need to know every single detail that is going to happen between point A and point B.
What you can control is your attitude going into any new project or life change.
Your attitude can either be:
a. “what if I die or something bad happens?” OR
b. “what if I have the best time of my life"
Those are both choices in how you think as you move towards something that scares you.
You will be afraid, as the body will respond to not knowing something that it can’t see ahead.
Instinctually, that could be your first response if your sense of self hasn’t been fully developed and trusted.
The process of trusting yourself takes practice and it takes calculated risks and scary choices as part of that practice.
Begin to listen to yourself when you talk to people about what you “wish” your life was like. Where you would LOVE to be rather than where you are. Listen to your words as they are coming from your thinking, feeling and belief of this present moment.
In order for something to change, it must cease being what it once was.
Here are a couple steps to ask yourself as you start taking your wants and dreams more seriously:
You are the only obstacle getting in the way of realizing your best life. The question will always be...”do I believe in myself enough to realize my potential?”
Realizing your worth takes the act of becoming worthy. Not to any one else, but yourself to start.
You are born with the rights to be here, to feel, to act, to love and be loved, to speak, to know and to understand.
What you need to develop is courage to take action on the things that have meaning and value in your life.
Move toward your fear...it will show you your bravery in becoming something greater than what you are now. You won’t know your potential until you do something that scares you... and be willing to fail...more than once.
Remember, self trust and confidence takes practice.
Practice makes progress, not perfect.
Take with you the awareness now that what you think about, you bring about. Become aware of your thoughts when you are dreaming up a life of luxury and bliss. It may be for the simple pleasure of that moment in time to think up a fantasy life.
However, if you are finding yourself depressed at the fact that you aren’t living that life of luxury and bliss, then it’s time to slap yourself in the face, remember that you are a powerful creator, face whatever fear you have in changing your life for the better and start asking yourself the important questions to help that dream become a reality. Do what it takes to become worthy of your dreams.
You are the obstacle. How many obstacles will you place in front of the person you could become?